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The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

A counterintuitive approach to living a good life

Mark Manson

For me, two important lessons:

Lesson 1: Stop fucking everything.
Agree. In Mark’s language, people are giving way too many fucks within their heads, online, about others, about how others think of themselves.  A fuck to how people think of my clothes today; a fuck to imagining themselves as the center of the talk; ... Those delusional, day-dreaming  fucks are a waste of time. Instead, focusing on giving fucks to the right people at the right time—those within self-defined metrics.

Lesson 2: “With great responsibility comes great power.” Responsibility here refers to total control on one’s life regardless of what happens. I  broke up with you because you cheated on me. No. Stop blaming others and making myself self-pitying. Take responsibility, be honest, and move on. >>> What to do: Honestly looking at and reconsidering the metric of how you measure your happiness/ successes. Do I have to be small, vulnerable, and always waiting for angels to come? No! I just take the responsibility all to me and have my life moving. Why am I saddened and dependent on you while I have full control of my actions?

Honestly speaking, this pattern happens a lot, in all kinds of relationships with friends, with family, and all. I am no exception. I  have this advice on my wall now.

Well, there are more than these two points made in the book, but for me, these are two useful ones. I think Mark’s unstable life gives many meaningful insights,  supporting the philosophy of living your true self.

I found some points a bit extreme though I understand he did try making so points more relatively (not absolutely) strong.

Summer 2020

April 7, 2020 at 3:00:00 PM


self-help, psychology


The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
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